Post by montrealmezzo on May 13, 2010 15:18:24 GMT -5
Hi operamoms!
I am so happy to have found this forum today. I had no idea anything like this existed! I have spent the past 2 days very upset over a decision I have to make soon...
A bit of background:
I'm almost 29 years old, I have a B.A. in history, I have just finished a 2-year pre-university program in music and I have been accepted into the music program at a major university in my city. I have 12 years of piano and 15 years of choral experience. I made the decision to give this music thing a try "for real" only 18 months ago and have absolutely loved the past 18 months of private voice lessons and music school. My teacher has been very encouraging about my career prospects, and I've been accepted to a great university music program, and I even had a professional gig after 4 months of private lessons...
I'm a bright mezzo right now (Cherubino, Der Komponist, etc.) I have a ways to go in terms of technique, but I have a lot of musicianship already. Also, no stage experience! (But I look great in pants
)
So...2 days ago I freaked out and decided that no way could I have a family, be home more than I am away, have a relatively stable income, keep my marriage together AND be a professional singer. Especially because 1) I haven't even started my bachelor's program yet, let alone any YAPs and 2) I really want to have children in the next 5 years, as does my partner.
What worries me most is the travel. My partner is starting a career as a woodworker and will definitely not be able to travel once the business is started in our city. I have been warned that the marriage will not last if I am traveling more than I am at home.
I am about to decline the university's offer into the bachelor program and re-start my studies in counselling psychology with the hopes of getting a masters in the next 3 years.
BUT, I have cried so much over this in the past 2 days, I feel like I'm being a coward.
Do I have to choose between having a family, a home, not traveling all the time, and pursuing my dreams of a singing career?
Am I limiting myself before I even start? (by wanting all of the above)
Is there a compromise that I'm not seeing here?
Any words of wisdom are much appreciated!!
mezzoinmontreal
I am so happy to have found this forum today. I had no idea anything like this existed! I have spent the past 2 days very upset over a decision I have to make soon...
A bit of background:
I'm almost 29 years old, I have a B.A. in history, I have just finished a 2-year pre-university program in music and I have been accepted into the music program at a major university in my city. I have 12 years of piano and 15 years of choral experience. I made the decision to give this music thing a try "for real" only 18 months ago and have absolutely loved the past 18 months of private voice lessons and music school. My teacher has been very encouraging about my career prospects, and I've been accepted to a great university music program, and I even had a professional gig after 4 months of private lessons...
I'm a bright mezzo right now (Cherubino, Der Komponist, etc.) I have a ways to go in terms of technique, but I have a lot of musicianship already. Also, no stage experience! (But I look great in pants
)So...2 days ago I freaked out and decided that no way could I have a family, be home more than I am away, have a relatively stable income, keep my marriage together AND be a professional singer. Especially because 1) I haven't even started my bachelor's program yet, let alone any YAPs and 2) I really want to have children in the next 5 years, as does my partner.
What worries me most is the travel. My partner is starting a career as a woodworker and will definitely not be able to travel once the business is started in our city. I have been warned that the marriage will not last if I am traveling more than I am at home.
I am about to decline the university's offer into the bachelor program and re-start my studies in counselling psychology with the hopes of getting a masters in the next 3 years.
BUT, I have cried so much over this in the past 2 days, I feel like I'm being a coward.
Do I have to choose between having a family, a home, not traveling all the time, and pursuing my dreams of a singing career?
Am I limiting myself before I even start? (by wanting all of the above)
Is there a compromise that I'm not seeing here?
Any words of wisdom are much appreciated!!
mezzoinmontreal