Post by singdammit on Mar 13, 2011 21:16:02 GMT -5
Hi everyone,
I've watched these boards for a while now and it's about that time that I need some dang advice and room to vent. Grab a drink and get ready for this...
We've found out that we are expecting in October and that's wonderful! But if I hear another person tell me (not knowing that I'm preggers) that having children is a career killer, I might strangle them with my left pinky and cut them with a rusty spoon. Then I'll take my previtamin and bury the evidence in the backyard.
Is it seriously that difficult to have a family and follow this dream? I know I've got a lot of obstacles ahead of me. First, I'm realistic...the Met isn't knocking on my door and I have no intention of waiting for them to do so. Second, I don't live in New York. According to VERY reliable sources in the biz, that's not necessarily a bad thing since lots of companies travel elsewhere for auditions anyway. Lastly, I don't have huge roles on my resume, I have lots of secondary roles that were done with just as much fire and passion as the YAPS I completed. So, I know where I stand (see obstacle #1). Those were issues before children and I still have no desire to be near NYC. I like where I live and that makes me happy. When I'm happy I want to sing. So I'm staying where I am and travelling when necessary to audition.
But where the hell do people get off telling me that I can't do this with children? How the heck did they get here? Do they really think that I will cast off the greatest husband in the world for a gig and go home to a dark apartment and my fat cat and call that success? Success to me means being able to love it all. I've got a great support system. Grandparents are more than happy to help be it babysitting or just giving me a swift kick in the patooty. My DH is my biggest advocate and is worried that I'll turn my back on opera for children. HE doesn't want me to quit! As for me, I'm sick of this crap I keep hearing that I can't do it. I'm ready to quit because I'm expecting something more important than me and that feels good. But, then I catch myself reviewing today's rehearsal notes and feel the pull of opera on my vocal chords. Dammit, I'm angry!
Thanks for letting me vent. I'm hormonal and slightly annoyed and I want a snack but don't know what it is and it's pissing me off. I know family/singing is doable, I've seen it done many times over. That's what this site is about for crying out loud. I just don't understand why people don't get it.
I've watched these boards for a while now and it's about that time that I need some dang advice and room to vent. Grab a drink and get ready for this...
We've found out that we are expecting in October and that's wonderful! But if I hear another person tell me (not knowing that I'm preggers) that having children is a career killer, I might strangle them with my left pinky and cut them with a rusty spoon. Then I'll take my previtamin and bury the evidence in the backyard.
Is it seriously that difficult to have a family and follow this dream? I know I've got a lot of obstacles ahead of me. First, I'm realistic...the Met isn't knocking on my door and I have no intention of waiting for them to do so. Second, I don't live in New York. According to VERY reliable sources in the biz, that's not necessarily a bad thing since lots of companies travel elsewhere for auditions anyway. Lastly, I don't have huge roles on my resume, I have lots of secondary roles that were done with just as much fire and passion as the YAPS I completed. So, I know where I stand (see obstacle #1). Those were issues before children and I still have no desire to be near NYC. I like where I live and that makes me happy. When I'm happy I want to sing. So I'm staying where I am and travelling when necessary to audition.
But where the hell do people get off telling me that I can't do this with children? How the heck did they get here? Do they really think that I will cast off the greatest husband in the world for a gig and go home to a dark apartment and my fat cat and call that success? Success to me means being able to love it all. I've got a great support system. Grandparents are more than happy to help be it babysitting or just giving me a swift kick in the patooty. My DH is my biggest advocate and is worried that I'll turn my back on opera for children. HE doesn't want me to quit! As for me, I'm sick of this crap I keep hearing that I can't do it. I'm ready to quit because I'm expecting something more important than me and that feels good. But, then I catch myself reviewing today's rehearsal notes and feel the pull of opera on my vocal chords. Dammit, I'm angry!
Thanks for letting me vent. I'm hormonal and slightly annoyed and I want a snack but don't know what it is and it's pissing me off. I know family/singing is doable, I've seen it done many times over. That's what this site is about for crying out loud. I just don't understand why people don't get it.